New Moon Musings...
Here at WiL²D we have been conversing about values of late. With the New Moon upon us,
it is the perfect time to dig into this question. It has come up again and again and again. Anyone who has taken our 40 Days of Seasonal Practice knows that a good chunk of the work we do at the initial gathering is around values.
I thought I knew what mine were/are until I looked at my list of values and then became curious on how my values show up in my day to day life. And for the most part, they don't. They look great on paper. They seem to be the "right" answer to the 'what are your values question.' I am just not sure if they are my values or values that I am expected to have. There are many voices or "memos" we receive from our families, society, religion, friends and many other sources that inform us of what our values "should" be as a good mom, wife, friend, daughter, sister... I am curious to know what my values ACTUALLY are based on HOW I spend my days. With the extra COVID time, we have been digging into some writing exercises to help us get closer to the heart of what our values are. Truly. Who am I, and who do I want to be? What is truly important to me? Am I living this? Am I creating my life based on the answers to these questions? When making decisions, do my values even enter the conversation?
Julia Cameron has come to the rescue once again and so we offer an invitation to join us as we use our writing life to shed light this New Moon and contemplate our truth:
VALUING OUR EXPERIENCE
Writing is an act of self-cherishing. We often write most deeply and happily on those areas closest to our heart. This tool contains clues to your personal value system. Set aside one hour. Take yourself out of the house and to a pleasant writing environment. It could be a coffee shop, a park, or the beach. Number from one to fifty. List fifty things you are proud of, from the small to the large, for example:
Moving to New York
Writing a one-act play
Giving up alcohol
Remembering our anniversary
Putting myself through college
My pie crust
My rapport with dogs
My relationship with my mother
The design I did for our newsletter
Losing the ten pounds and keeping it off
During the next week, review this list several time at your leisure. What does it teach you about what you value? You may find you value your sense of daring, or your sense of thoughtfulness, physical adventures or intellectual ones, acts of outer initiative or times of inner reflection. Knowing what experiences have been important to you is a clue not only to what you might want to do more of... (Page 51 The Right to Write)...
Here is our start at this as a way of honouring the New Moon and using this time to be reflecting on how we spend our days and what we value:
"When we honour our values, we feel an internal "rightness". It's as if each value produces its own special tone. When we live our values, the various tones create a unique harmony."
- book: Co-Active Coaching: Changing Business, Transforming Lives
If this work intrigues you... stay tuned. We are in the process of creating a beautiful offering for WiL²D, and would love for you to join us. In the meantime, Happy New Moon,
lori and terry-lynn xo